I think it’s the most fun but at the same time the most awful game to play in life.
It always starts out as a fun, daring game of trying to let the other person know you like them, but at the same time not coming on as too desperate or to willing ’cause that would scare them away. Almost like playing ‘hide and seek’.
Then comes the turning point. You both know you like each other, but neither is ready to admit feelings. Now it can get even more fun, when you admit you have special feelings for one another. Or this is where the awful part gets in. Now you know the other person might not have those special feelings for you and it’s in your own best interest to quit this game.
However, I tell you, it’s an addiction! It’s really not that easy to let go of this game.
Trying to let go of this image in your head that it could’ve been ‘something special’ is the hardest part. Because that’s what you did in the beginning part of the game. And in the end that’s what we’re all searching for, isn’t it?
Is there some universal love we all want, we’re all looking for in life? Or is it the idea that that’s what you’re supposed to do or want? Are we still so much influenced by other peoples thoughts, ideas and opinions about love? About what it is you need to do in life and love? Are there still taboos?
I think there are.
You don’t tell people about your one night stands, about your ‘friend-with-benefits’ or the next one that didn’t work out after two dates, but who you did have sex with.
They want to hear you’ve found ‘the perfect guy’, who you are moving in with in a great apartment, get married to, move to a pretty house with beautiful yard for the future kids to play in, get a dog, get pregnant next, two kids (a boy and a girl of course), who are excellent students at school, go to college, graduate with straight A’s and at that time find this love story for their own.
Is this what we all want, or is this what we think we want?
I’m no expert on love, that’s for sure. I may even have some commitment issues.
However, I think the best advice someone can give you on love is:
Just do what you think is good for you, what makes you happy at this time. Don’t think too much about the future, you only live once, might as well have a little fun, right?